WHAT IS A SOUL MIDWIFE?
Soul Midwives are non-medical, holistic companions who guide and support the dying in order to facilitate a gentle and peaceful death.
Soul Midwives draw on ancient skills and traditions, apply and adapt them to modern day life, and death, and treat dying as a rite of passage and a precious and sacred journey.
HOW CAN A SOUL MIDWIFE HELP?
End of Life Companion
Our primary role. A soul midwife is with someone as much or as little as they need or want throughout their journey. We are there without judgement, are non denominational, and always come from the heart in everything we do. We treat everyone we work with as our own family. We see death as precious and sacred and believe people should have as much love and support as possible. It will happen to us all and we only have one chance to get it right, for that person and those left behind.
Assist with Advance Care Planning and funeral preparations
Thinking about the care or treatment that you want early on in your journey takes any worries away from yourself and your loved ones if and when it happens. Planning your funeral can be empowering and believe it or not, an uplifting experience for everyone involved. It can be emotional of course, but it is worth it. Being a Funeral Celebrant, I can take that journey with you and conduct your funeral for you when the time comes knowing you have someone that knows you and can speak from, not only experience, but the heart.
Facilitate Open conversations
Talking about Death and Dying is easy when we are well. Discussing your wishes and deepest feeling with those you love can be one of the hardest conversations you will ever have when you are facing the end of your life. But the result and consequences of doing so are so priceless.
Deep Listening and Advanced Communication Skills
Deep listening is something most of us take for granted. Soul Midwives can truly connect and really 'hear' what someone is saying, and it is not always about the words. Listening is probably the biggest part of our role for our 'friends' and their families. It is not always a case of saying 'the right thing' but simply 'being present'. We can 'Hold Space' and take the journey together.
Creating Memory Boxes
Memory boxes, scrap books, recipe collections and audio recordings are just a few of the wonderful ways you can leave your legacy. Doing them as a family, with children, or with those you love can be a type of healing, a support through the early grief that sets in. The memories created in doing these things alone will be precious. Soul Midwives can help everyone involved, even if only for ideas.
Help signpost and attend appointments
Part of our role maybe to attend appointments as an impartial, yet loving, support. We can just 'be present' so you feel less alone. We can also help research, investigate options, look for help and seek advice. There is a huge amount of support out there for those who maybe poorly, it's just a case of knowing where to look.
Use therapeutic techniques to ease symptoms and feelings
Sound, Oils, Aromas, Crystals and Gentle Touch are all some of the things we have in our TOOLKITS and that we can offer those we work with. All of these old ancient therapies bring a sense of calm, can reduce heart rates, ease fear and holistically support someones journey through death. All senses can become heightened when we die and all of these ways have been proved to work for centuries by our ancestors.
Hold Bedside Vigils
We can hold sacred space at the bedside of those who are dying. We can create a calm, loving and safe space for the souls journey ahead. Families may want to do to this themselves and we can support loved ones to do this to help fulfil a persons wishes. Some people want music, pictures, a favourite blanket or trinket near them, all of these personal touches can help create a loving vigil. This is an example of one of the benefits of having tough conversations early on.
TLC - Tender Loving Care - offers practical ways to help those at end of life. It can empower loved ones, support staff in Care homes and educate those in businesses or health care about what happens when someone is dying and ways to lovingly support them. There are insights into the stages of dying and what a person, and their soul may go through. These training days are offered as groups in the community, to families and individuals and as training days/modules to Homes, Hospices and Hospitals.